stop wasting your energy on people who make you feel like shit

there are two kinds of people

people who are worth your energy, and people who are not

let's talk about the second one

here's the thing – energy never lies.

after interacting with someone, you either:

1. feel better/okay, or
2. feel like shit

some people are just depleting to be around. sometimes it's because they are an asshole. but usually it's a matter of incompatibility

it doesn't mean that if they deplete you, they are a bad person. in fact, it has nothing to do with them

this is about you.

you are the one controlling your energy. how much you are giving. to whom you're giving it to

the problem comes when you find yourself being surrounded by people who suck the energy out of you, and you choose to stay in it. then you just end up feeling more and more like shit

that's not worth it.

if you find yourself being constantly depleted by someone, put lesser energy into them

it doesn't mean that you need to cut them out

remember – you are the one controlling your energy

put more energy into people that make you feel better about yourself. whatever that may mean to you

stop wasting your energy on people who make you feel like shit


21 comments

  • Effa

    Meeehhnnn — Ron! Ron! Ron! I read this 1:18am and it’s just what i needed. It’s been a crazy long week for me, there have been a lot of shedding and choosing the people whom i need to direct my energy towards.

  • Mi

    Exactly. This post is so relatable. I’ve been feeling this for a while yet I don’t know how to put it into words. Thanks Ron, your writing is always on another level. Love your website.

  • ayu5uf

    Been here since early 2020 and it’s inspiring to see how you’ve been growing your platforms, 🙇🏾‍♂️

  • lilli.jeannnn

    I love this all of your writing has made it easier fir me to get through what ever i’m getting through and it’s inspired me to write my own stuff too!

  • @kcnkvs

    I felt drained. At the point where I just wanted to be alone. But I just realized that in the process of prioritizing myself, I did some things that made my loved ones feel like shit. Shutting them out shouldn’t be the answer when it’s people you care about. A break from them did me good. And I’m trying to do better.


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